And, more on owning your own words…

September 14, 2009

This is gonna be brief, because believe it or not, I’m actually pretty swamped today… with, like, real work stuff.

An online buddy and follower of this blog pointed me to an article by Hudson Sangree (what a fucking great writer name that is!) at the Sac Bee that ran today:

UC Davis case shows how Web comment anonymity’s not absolute

This makes and supports my point, brilliantly: There are cases and situations in which I agree that anonymous speech should be protected speech – BUT – in cases where the commenter is hiding behind anonymity to harass, defame or perform other illegal action, that protection should be suspended.

It is one thing to be vigorously critical, but it is another to be someone who uses the platform of anonymity so they can say and/or do things which are illegal or harmful to others.

Things they would never say or do if they had to be accountable for what they were saying or doing.

My favorite passage:

“The court said the First Amendment generally protects anonymous speech, even though the Internet’s informality leads many ‘to substitute gossip for accurate reporting’ and engage in ‘harsh and unbridled invective.’

But where plaintiffs can make a plausible case for defamation, the justices ruled, online anonymity may be breached. ‘When vigorous criticism descends into defamation,’ they wrote, ‘constitutional protection is no longer available.”‘


Question of the Week: What is your favorite Internet Drama?

September 14, 2009


EDIT 9/16: I really appreciate the people who’ve emailed me suggestions for case studies for my book.  And, actually I think I prefer to get emails.  An account you can email to is linked above, I’m closing comments since no one is using them.

Kelly Clarkson vs. Kanye is an interesting example (if only because it is an example of famous people using FREE WordPress blogs,) the IE vs. Netscape is very techy, but interesting too… I’m also looking forward to digging into the DevShed and deviantART forums to research the history of muck raking in those communities.  Also, I’ve added a chapter on online dating to my outline due to the mass influx of emails asking me to write something about that.  I actually have a few amusing stories of my own that I can tell about that topic (like the dude who said he was 6’3″ on his profile and when I met him in person he was shorter than I am… and, I’m short).

Keep ’em comin’!

Thx ~ KK

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Music Monday…

September 14, 2009

My housemate and sister from anotha motha, Tasha, was listening to The Smiths all weekend, so now I totally have this song stuck in my head:

And if a double-decker bus
Crashes into us
To die by your side
Is such a heavenly way to die
And if a ten-ton truck
Kills the both of us
To die by your side
Well, the pleasure – the privilege is mine

This song makes me think of my lovely Eric Henthorn and our senior year of high school. Such good times, probably the only ones I had in high school, were listening to The Smiths in Eric’s beater car as we had forbidden adventures to Akron and Cleveland and Brady’s Cafe (RIP, Brady’s). Happy thoughts of teen angst. J’taime!

Let’s talk about obsessed, baby… Let’s talk about you and me…

September 12, 2009

EDIT: 9/14/09 – Turns out that it was BONNIE who was over here spamming my blog.   You can see the comments on the YOYOW post to see her out herself.  I’d like to say I have more respect for her because she finally owned up to being an obsessed psycho, but I really don’t. /paying attention to TFC

Oh Ben, I mean TURD, I knew you couldn’t stay away!

For those who question if I am the one with a screw lose, please attend the screen caps below the cut (for privacy) of the person(s) who swore they would never, ever, ever, ever, EVER comment on this blog again… Mr. Turd has proven that it is he (or she, or THEY) who hath lost their shit…

You know, I comment over there from time to time, but at least I do so as Kate Kotler and don’t spend my time creating alternate identities for myself to troll one person over and over again.  How many is that now?  Ben, Turd, Tom, Source Citer… who else is residing in your head, Ben?

Tsk, tsk.  Such sloppy trolling work.  I expected better from… well, no I didn’t.

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True Fail Saturday

September 12, 2009
Youre a rebel!

You're a rebel!

In a unique brand of teenage rebellion…

Teen Charged in Theft Of Stolen Zoo Animals

Imagine the thought process:

“Fuck you, Mom and Dad!  I don’t need this shit.  I’m going to shoplift steal money from Mom’s purse steal Grandpa’s prescription drugs boost a car and go joy riding steal a monkey and a parrot!”

I actually have to give the unnamed 17-year old some props… the idea of him stealing a monkey and a parrot and hiding it in a shack is pretty f-ing cool.

EXCEPT that he/she got caught.

AND the story made it into the top ten trending stories on Google News.

You know that kid is either going to be mocked back into the stone ages or regarded as a hero come Monday morning at school…

It’s hard to tell which.

Ah, teen angst, you take so many weird, weird forms and you never cease to amuse me!

Does anyone other than me wonder if it was the parrot who ratted him out?

“Caw-caw!  It was Jimmy, it was Jimmy! Caw-caw!”

I <3 BBCAmerica AND Doctor Who!

September 12, 2009

Watching the first episode of the new season of Friday Night with Jonathan Ross (my BFF from Comic Con) and I just saw a commercial for a day long Doctor Who Marathon on Sunday.

I’ll be taking the day off for that, Rosey will be filling in.

Oh David, youre so dreamy!!!

Oh David, you're so dreamy!!!

You Own Your Own Words

September 11, 2009
Come out from behind the pixels, please...

Come out from behind the pixels, please...

I had an interesting interaction in Laurel Bookstore today.

I was picking up a copy of A Wrinkle In Time that I ordered for a particular seven year-old I know and while I was there I asked the lovely young thing working behind the counter if she’d order a copy of She’s Such A Geek for me, as I seem to have lost the one I had.

Actually, I know exactly where it is, I loaned it to a former friend who now writes an anonymous blog about me.

Anyhow, the young thing working behind the counter had not heard of this book and given how much I love it, I felt compelled to extol on its’ virtues to her.  She then asked me if I loved it so much, why I didn’t have a copy already and I told her that I’d lost it, but needed to get a new copy because I’m using it as a resource for the book I’m writing.

The man in line behind me, who was purchasing the NYT (always a good sign), asked me what my book was going to be about.

“Online drama,” I said, turning to face him, “Both that that I’ve created and that which others have created and why it is that so many people subsitute social networking for a social life these days.”

He lit up like a Christmas tree at this statement and said, “Oh really!?!  What do you think about the blogger in New York who wrote an anonymous blog calling that model a ‘skank’ and then got upset when Google revealed her name to the person she’d been slandering?”

I just smiled at him and said, “Oh, I believe that you have to ‘own your own words,’ I don’t believe in Internet anonymity – I think that people should be held accountable for what they say online.'”

He nodded with me and smiled, bought his NYT and we parted ways.

It was a nice exchange, it made me happy.

Lemme ‘Splain:
The phrase “You Own Your Own Words” was first coined by Stewart Brand when he founded The Well community 1985 and the definition of this phrase has been debated by its members for decades.

The most accepted concept is that in community situations, the poster owns their own words and the community cannot be held liable for the bad behavior of its’ members.

What it means to me is this: Stand by what you write and do online, or don’t write or do it.

Basically, I do not believe that Internet anonymity should be allowed.  I write under my own name or aliases which are clearly connected to my real name. I stand behind everything I say, do or create online.  I equally take the praise and criticism for those acts and think that other people should do the same.

Here is why: Anonymity online allows people to behave in ways they’d never behave if people knew who it was that was actually writing the offensive or questionable material.  By getting rid of Internet anonymity or anonymous posting, you could systematically eliminate almost ALL cyberbullying, harassment, trolling and spamming because there would be online and real life consequences for bad behavior.

Sadly, it is near impossible to create a mechanism to moderate the entire Internet in a real way that could even begin to make a dent in identifying anon users.

And, there are some constructive political arguments for not banhammering anonymous posting or userids in a number of mediums – such as the situation from this past June in which political protesters in Terhan were using Twitter to report what was actually happening during the violent protests that started after election foul was called in the Iranian presiential election…

Those arguments are good ones and I agree with those precepts of anonymity.  But, in 99% of cases I think that anonymous posting should not be allowed… Because people are relying on not being identified to allow them to behave like assholes.

I digress.

Since there is no mechanism to force people to be upfront and honest on these here innerwebz, I choose to practice what I preach and I believe wholly in YOYOW.

The Well was a seminal online community which really defined ALL online communities from message boards to virtual worlds to blog communities.  And, Stewart Brand is a fucking genius.  Attention should be paid.  Which is why I believe, also, in outting people who behave badly online… Making them be accountable for their own words.  Perhaps it’s a bit aggressive, but it’s what I believe and what I do.


Quick post… Now who’s suspect?

September 9, 2009

You're Suspect!There is someone commenting on the blog I linked to this morning claiming that they are the ones who created the profile of me that showed up on The Burn Book this morning.  Aside from the fact that I find it hilarious that this blog project has inspired yet ANOTHER blog bitching about me, I have to say that I’m suspicious of the people who claim to have started the second blog (so creatively called The Burn List).

As I said before, I have Google alerts set for my name and had that content been published PRIOR to The Burn Book, I would have gotten an email notification about it.  I didn’t get a Google alert about it until a little under an hour ago.  There is no way that those posts were written on 1 September…

I concur with Gossip Guy in saying that whoever started the copycat blog is total fail.

Fuck sincerity…

September 9, 2009
Time to press this button...

Time to press this button...

I’ve decided to take down the posts about my friends.  I don’t need to prove anything -to myself or to anyone else.  Posting warm, fuzzy, nice things about people has diverted me from the purpose of this blog.

That purpose is to examine online folly, frolic and pranks – both my own and those of others.  To examine weird Internet trends and happenings.

So that’s what I’m going to do.

I was talking to my Paranoid Android last night on the phone and he was complimenting me on how much success I’m experiencing with my writing.  He is also a writer, so compliments from him are particularly precious to me.

I told him that at times I was becoming a little disheartened because I was receiving so much negative feedback.  I mean, I know that I’m asking for it, but it still doesn’t stop it from stinging a wee bit.

He told me this: If everyone likes your writing all of the time, you aren’t doing your job right.

Fair enough.

In other news: As a writer, I have Google alerts on my own name, the aliases I write under and the titles of the websites/urls of the websites I write for.  Today I found an alert in my email that lead me to this new blog: The Burn Book

Apparently someone has started a burn book because of this blog and the TFC.  Crazy.  I’ve had this blog for maybe three months and already it has spurred so much hatred that Bonnie & Ben had to start a blog so that they along with all their trolly minions could bitch about me in semi-private.  AND a blog has been started to bitch about all three of us.

The blog is pretty funny in how accurate it is.  Bravo to whomever is writing it.  I’m adding you to my blogroll and can’t wait to see who you post about next.

I feel like this project is a rousing success and is great research for the book I’m writing.

That is all.


September 7, 2009

Friends, family and loved ones. Fans of me or my writing or random readers of this blog who think I’m getting the short end of the stick with people being mean to me on the Internet…

Please stop commenting on *that blog* in attempts to defend me. The people writing it and commenting on it are not nice people who are convinced that I am the anti-Christ and a sick, awful person who needs to be locked up in the looney bin. They do not know me. They will not know me. And, nothing you say is going to make them change their minds as to how they feel about me. It will only make them say more hateful, demeaning, cruel, stupid things about me.

Do not waste energy on them.

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